MY CASE DIDN’T SETTLE AT MEDIATION – NOW WHAT?

Despite a full day of mediation, your case did not settle. Now that the mediation is over, what can you do to get the case settled? First, the mediation is not over. While the mediation session may be over, the mediation continues. Settlement opportunities are rarely lost.

The best way to decide what to do is to determine why the case did not settle. A deep dive into what impeded settlement that day will help eliminate the impediments and reopen negotiations. … Read more

HOPE

It was a new year,
And all through the land,
People were scurrying,
For all they had planned.

With joy and great cheer,
They hoped Covid had passed.
Tragedies, losses,
They never could last.
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The Four-Word Solution to Most of Your Conflicts

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Most of us try to avoid conflict. It portends confrontation, is uncomfortable at best, and is horribly violent at worst. What if SOME of the conflicts you have could be productive and leave you feeling relieved? I have an idea.

Even though we try to avoid conflict, we experience it every day. Around the globe, at work, in the boardroom, among family members. Here are some tools to use to resolve conflict constructively. You may be familiar with them, but I offer a simple approach, even a handy list at the end.

Resolution can provide the relief and personal calm we all crave. You have to recognize two things: (1) try as you might, you cannot control others, and (2) you can control your own perspective, reactions, and anger.

I will tell you the four words, but not yet.

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It’s All about Us — How to Win with Kindness

With the improbable means of kindness, we can improve the quality of our communication and develop opportunities to collaborate. As a lawyer and mediator over the last 35-plus years, I have discovered that kindness is the “secret sauce” in the recipe for managing conflict and improving the milieu in which we live. We can’t eliminate conflict. However, with the improbable means of kindness, we can improve the quality of our communication and develop opportunities to collaborate instead of oppress and kill. … Read more

Convenient Scheduling and Mediating

Read as PDF Our new online calendaring system has helped streamline the process of booking a mediation. Instead of losing time playing phone tag, you can check Rande’s availability on our website, SotomayorLaw.com, and click on Scheduling. You can hold dates and book mediations on the same calendar once counsel have agreed on a date. (Rande also can help if you’re having trouble agreeing on a … Read more

Los Angeles Daily Journal Profile of Rande Sotomayor – April 10, 2020

If you are a Los Angeles Daily Journal subscriber, check out Rande’s profile on Friday, April 10, 2020 in the Verdicts & Settlements section. It was an honor to have been portrayed as a mediator who “‘is exceptionally committed to striking a balance between opposing parties,’ as demonstrated by ‘her refusal to act as anyone’s cheerleader, her ability nonetheless to build positive relationships with all sides, and her dedication to following up until a resolution has been reached.'” … Read more